Friday, August 27, 2010
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Let me share with you how I came to realize the value of Life Coaching | StreetCorner.com.au
Let me share with you how I came to realize the value of Life Coaching | StreetCorner.com.au
I was working for a mutli-national company when I made a life changing decision. I wanted to seek a new career. Something inside me said I could do it, but how? What would my family and friends say? Would they be supportive? How would pursuing it impact my work-life balance? One day I picked up an article about Life Coaching. My first reaction was I don’t need coaching – I can do it myself. But then I thought that if may be worth a phone call. It resulted in an introductory session. After half an hour of talking about what I really wanted in life I found myself enthused with new energy and motivation.
Through the coaching sessions that followed the positive thoughts within me were identified and nourished. Inspired by the process and motivated by the release of positive energy opened up a methodical pathway to establishing my own business. My heartfelt appreciation of the benefits of the process continues to this day and is reflected in occasional telephone contact with my coach to exchange some news and a few thoughts.
Monday, August 23, 2010
20 ways to get more done..today!
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Take Control of Your Day
Many days, you wonder "why" you keep doing your job when it only makes you feel frazzled, ineffectual, and always behind schedule. But could "how" you do it be what's really holding you back? Here are 20 ways to stave off burnout, sharpen your focus, and bring out your best.
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Enrich your life...be a more positive person
There are no hard and fast rules to be a positive person. Some might say that people are 'born optimistic while others tend to be more naturally pessimistic'. I don't quite agree with such a statement. David Kreuger MD, a mentor coach has taught me a very simple yet highly important formula which once applied, can change your perspective completely. It goes something like this:
Belief drives Behaviour...Behaviour drives performance
So if your performance in life, at work, friendships, romance leaves much to be desired, look carefully and actively at your behaviour and how your behaviour is interacting with these spheres in your life. Once such behaviour is identified turn onto your beliefs and value systems. What internal messages and philosophies are driving your behaviour?
I personally found the following actions to feed into my belief which in turn feed into my behaviour and ultimately into a satisfying and successful performance:
Wake-up everyday with the conscious conviction that your day will bring about new experiences and new encounters no matter how small or insignificant they may appear to be.
Combat internal messages that convey negative thoughts. If your usual internal talk when you wake up is "Oh Gosh! Another hideous day at the office", replace it with "I feel thankful for being able to wake-up and live another day". Even if it feels artificial to say it at first, make it a habit..this utimately becomes integrated into your beleif system.
Smile genuinely as you greet people. This will make them smile back at you and gives you a good feeling.
Complement people often if you honestly think they have something worth praising. Don't complement people just for the sake of licking their backside. People will realise when you are genuine or fake.
Whatever challenge you may encounter, appreciate the fact that once you have overcome the challenge you would have evolved into a stronger, wiser, more knowledgeable you.
Diminish past memories which are sour and bitter and enforce those which are positive and joyful. You can do this by closing your eyes for a few moments, concentrate on your breathing and picture in your mind those thoughts which have left a negative or undesired effect on you. Use your hands to push these images into the distance until these memories are just a dot in the distance. On the other hand think of the happy thought and make the mental image of these memories brighter, more vivid and closer to you so that you are filled with positive thoughts.
It may sound airy-fairy to most people but I personally and strongly believe that all change, no matter how bad it may appear during the present moment, is ultimately for the better. This gives me a sense of good feeling and positive outlook towards life. So keep these simple points in mind and apply them daily. You will be amazed at how things will take a fold into your advantage.
How can life coaching help you?
Do you ever wonder what life coaching is all about? Why on earth would someone need to see a coach for help? Sounds a bit like you could be cajoled into some kind of early morning fitness regime - no thanks!
Usually it's only when something happens to rock your world, maybe a relationship breakdown, redundancy, a bereavement, that you might look around for some kind of help. These life changing events, and sometimes other experiences such as being bullied, becoming ill or feeling unhappy at work, mean you can lose your self confidence and sense of direction. Feelings of stress and anxiety, negative thoughts and low self-esteem can send you into a downward spiral.
Maybe you've known or know of someone in that situation. Someone who's:
not motivated enough to take the first positive steps to change
getting stuck in negative thoughts and going round in circlesfinding it difficult to see the wood from the trees
feeling nervous about things they've done or not done
worried about what people will think if they make changes
Life coaching teaches relatively simple and effective strategies to help you solve problems. The methods used have a very practical focus on creating a positive future rather than delving into a painful past and difficult emotions. A life coach will usually talk with you first and then agree a set number of sessions to work through this process with you. Most life coaches have their own business rather than work for organisations, and often specialise in helping people deal with specific problems whether at work, making relationships or within families.
Friday, August 13, 2010
A series of unfortunate events?
I was upset to learn that the mobile phone I thought I would enjoy using turned out to be a fake; I did get frustrated when this old lady crashed into my car (she claimed to have had a black-out while driving) but it was useless venting out anger at this poor woman under shock when the damage was already done. I was also infuriated when this hacked used my account to make the un-authorised calls. I could have displaced my anger and frustration towards people who were not to blame but instead I preferred to remain composed and rational about it.
Each situation I tackled it with caution and luckily in all circumstances I was re-imbursed for the damages/frauds. At first when I looked back and saw these series of events happening to me I got a bit upset and threw a 'fit' because I was attracting unwanted/negative energy. A friend of mine told me that it is possible that although I am not wanting these events to happen consciously, my unconscious could be attracting them. I personally do not wish to think of it that way...I'd rather see it as a process in which I've learned how to act diligently...ultimately in all circumstances I got reimbursed and that means I was lucky enough not to suffer any financial losses. I learned how to tackle such situations when they arise and I feel that these experiences allowed me to grow and mature even more.
The moral of this reflection is that in the end what matters most is in what 'mind set' are you going to tackle the situation. I believe that without much shouting and swearing, things could be achieved without severing any relationships with others. Maybe I am naive in this subject, but I think it is worth sharing.
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